Sunday, July 06, 2008

What is Wrong With People?

Why would you sign up for a swap that you don't intend on keeping your commitment to? I can understand when people have something come up health or money related. But that's not what I'm talking about.

I'm talking about someone who receives items in a swap, but does not thank anyone or keep up their end and send anything. Specifically what has set my teeth on edge is the Great Bootie Swap I participated in on Ravelry. Participants were split into groups based on how many pairs of baby booties they were willing to make. I ended up in a group with 3 other ladies, so needed to make 3 pairs of booties and mail a pair to each of them. You also included another baby gift, bought or made, worth about $5.00. I selected some cute baby photo albums. Anyway.... I mailed out my 3 packages. I received two great packages from NWKnitterMama and KnitIdiot. Nothing from amandamay83. I have delivery confirmation from all 3, but amandamay83 has not posted a thank you on the Ravelry group, sent a thank you via pm or regular email NOR has she sent any one of us a package in return, as she signed up to do.

At first I thought perhaps something had happened to her, but she appears to be alive, well & thriving according to her blog posts. So, I sent her a pm on Ravelry. No reply. Went to her blog and left the following comment on THIS post:

Hi Amanda,

I just noticed, after sending you a message on Ravelry, that you haven't posted on there in some time. So, I figured I'd comment here instead. I just wanted to check and see that you indeed had my package. Delivery confirmation shows it was delivered on Wed, June 25th. Hope you like the booties.

BTW... regarding ground beef... where do you find 70/30?? I can't find it where I live. I would buy it because after I brown ground beef, I rinse it with hot water in a colander. It takes even more fat away, then you can return it to the pan.

No contact in return. I waited a few days. On July 1 I sent the following email to her:

Hi Amanda,

I've sent you a message on Ravelry and posted a comment to your blog about the bootie swap package that I know you received from me. I have delivery confirmation. At first I was concerned that you may have fallen on hard times or were ill, but I see you updating your blog almost daily. I worked hard on making those booties for you and I'm really saddened and disappointed that you haven't bothered to even acknowledge receipt of the package. Heck, if you didn't like what I sent, even an "I got it but didn't like anything" message would be better than total silence. Reading your blog, you seem to be a good person, with strong family values, so I fail to understand this lapse in manners. :(

Thanks for your time,

Dee (madcraftermom on Ravelry)

Once again, no response. Thinking perhaps she doesn't check the email address she used to sign up for this swap, I decided to copy & paste that exact email as another blog comment on THIS post. I looked today and my comment wasn't there. So, she took the time to read & delete it, but STILL has the audacity to ignore her obligation to ALL parties involved in this swap. Honestly, it isn't even about the friggin' booties!! Its about basic human decency. She talks about being frugal on her blog a lot.... perhaps STEALING handmade items from well-intentioned people is her idea of frugality? How can someone like this even look at herself in the mirror everyday?

So, thank you so much,
for my first EVER (and hopefully last) BAD SWAPPER experience.

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Sheryl aka: KNITIDIOT said...

Nice! Thanks for calling her out for us!

Thank YOU for the great swap experience!

Octopus Knits said...

Geez! That's pretty rediculous of her. You would think she'd be too ashamed to "show her face" on her blog...

Pegi said...

Oh, for heaven's sake. What a maroon (as Bugs Bunny would say!).

Kenyetta said...

That is horrible! Did you add her to the Naughty Swapper list on Ravelry?

kristy said...

That sucks!! Sorry you got stuck with her...

Dee said...

I'm holding off to let the swap moderator report her. :)